You probably were recently asked:

What is the best advice you have either
given someone, or received from someone?

My favorite advice is to ask questions
because you can meet some great people,
have some great conversations,
learn a lot, and you could possibly make a new friend.
Questions can be the foundation of a lifetime friendship.

My best advice is clearer if I start with the 2nd best advice I've ever received.

The 2nd best advice I have ever received is a book called The 5 Love Languages.
(If you can think of a 6th language, then you should write a book called The 6 Love Languages and you'll make a lot of money. )
This advice really helped me because it talks about the 5 ways people can express love.
To quickly summarize a really good book:
One of the biggest problems that happens between people is one person speaks one love language
while the other person speaks a different love language.
So it is like a Chinese person screaming at a Mexican.
They are both screaming, "I love you! What is wrong with you? Why don't you feel loved?!?!"
But they are screaming in different languages and don't understand each other.

While this advice is amazingly helpful,
the best advice I've ever received is a book called Love and Logic.
Where The 5 Love Languages talks about the 5 ways to give and receive love...
Love and Logic teaches you tips and tricks to deal with the 7 languages of anger
and get into cooperation.
How this changed my life is because of a time that I got into a fight with my wife.
In the heat of the moment, I said some things I really shouldn't have.
This was right after I had studied Love and Logic for a while and it was a complete slap to my own face!
I said to myself, "Why am I saying these things to the person I love most in the world? I don't want her to say the same things back to me!"
So I ended up using Love and Logic techniques on myself,
and pushed myself out of the anger languages.
Ever since, my family life has significantly better.
One of the key differences between the anger languages and the love languages is no one forgets an anger language.
Everyone speaks every anger language in every combination when they are mad.
So I can watch my son get in a fight with my daughter and watch them progress thru ALL of the anger languages.
I'll see my son start out using the lecture anger language.
My daughter might counter with distractions.
Now my son tries a combination of intimidation + avoidance (such as running away and slamming doors).
Wow, my daughter just switched to a combo of threats + manipulation + physical anger languages!
Then I'm able to say a few Love and Logic phrases and stop the madness,
such that everyone wants to cooperate.

So to summarize my best advice:
If you can master the love languages and get control over the anger languages,
then you'll have conquered the most important and hardest parts of life.

I hope this helps you as much as it helped me.

One last thing I must finally note is that Love and Logic never mentions the anger languages directly,
and everyone take away something different.
Some people take away choices while others take away consequences or control or consistency.
Some people just decide to just start using the one liners.
I personally learned about the anger languages thru the detailed examples they give.
You might take something different away from it.
Love and Logic focuses on parenting advice,
but their tips and tricks work on the anger languages.

If you'd like to know more about me, please visit:
www.PotterParkLoop.com and send me an email or call me.
I'd love to connect with you.

You can email/txt me any random questions you might have.
We could also get together for lunch, and you can meet my family.

I hope this helps you as much as it helped me because it absolutely changed my life.